It's good to enjoy things, but what if someone asked you to commit to something to the extent that you had to give up those three things? Now remember, we're not talking about church, family, work, or other important obligations. Let's imagine that we schedule something that we routinely don't schedule. That is usually what happens for the period of time we listen to a speaker (spiritual leader), attend a seminar, or go on a retreat: We give up the something we would be doing if we hadn't attended; we dedicate our time more intimately with God; and we also refocus on what we want to accomplish together, instead of the individual joy we perchance would fill our time with.